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Gender Reveal

Jun 24, 2021

Tuck chats with John Paul Brammer, author of ¡Hola Papi!, in the second half of this special two-part queer advice episode.

Topics include:

  • Combating identity imposter syndrome (“am I queer enough?”)
  • Not being wholesome enough for Pet Twitter
  • The tyranny of authenticity
  • Why it’s perfectly fine to experience joy right now
  • Plus: Where does the wind come from? Dear Evan Hanson isn’t gay? Why can’t we escape Twitter? And why has no one ever been in love with me?

If you want to avoid suicidality talk, skip 21:00-23:30.

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Associate Producer: Julia Llinas Goodman
Logo: Ira M. Leigh
Music: Breakmaster Cylinder
Sponsors: Bistitchual